A Cancer Survivor’s Guide to Living Your Desired Life: Chapter One – Day 3


Cancer Diaries: Day 3 The Ball Monster
By Jennifer Engel — May 16, 2013 7:32am
How to explain cancer to a four year old.

When my boys were younger
one still is
and when I would get extremely frustrated with them
I would tell them:
Monster Mom is coming

Monsters are a concept
that young children are familiar with

After making the statement
I would follow up the comment with:
I really don’t want to be a monster
can you help me from stopping the monster from coming out?

That’s usually all it took for my child to redirect their behavior

That or praying to God in front of them was effective as well:

“Please God, let me be able to…fill in the blank”

I used this same concept
to explain cancer to my four-year old son
the concept of cancer

I told him that doctors found a little monster inside of me
and that I would need to get a few shots
to help kill the monster inside of me
and that it might mean that I too
would feel sick
for a little while

Upon explaining this concept my son said:

“The shots are going to help get the monster out of
you so you won’t be sick any more?”

Me: “yep”
My son: “yeah!”

Last night as he went to bed
it seemed as if he wasn’t as confident:

“I don’t want you to be sick.”

Me: “It’s okay.
I’ll be fine.
We will all be fine.”

My husband told me
that as he went to bed our son to bed
while he may have put on a brave front
there were tears behind his eyes.

I do not want my sons to experience any fear or worries.
I suppose that is where our faith
will have to step in

A Jonny Mercer song comes to mind:
You’ve got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
latch on to the affirmative
Don’t mess with Mister In-Between

Note: For further books that explain cancer to children

please check out the links below

Our Momma’s a Beautiful Garden by Katy Tessman Stanoch

Books That Help Kids Learn About Cancer – Fighting Cancer Together

2 thoughts on “A Cancer Survivor’s Guide to Living Your Desired Life: Chapter One – Day 3

  1. That he went to bed our son to bed needs to be corrected. Good post! This could also be made into a child’s picture book!

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